The Do’s And Don’ts Of First Dates


The world of dating can be tricky to navigate at times. To help steer you in the right direction, we’ve compiled a list of ‘Do’s’ and ‘Don'ts’ when it comes to first dates. Here’s how to avoid those awkward moments and sail through any date that comes your way.

The Do's

Be Confident

When it comes to dating, there really is nothing more attractive then confidence. You’re a catch – so you better believe it!

Be Yourself

They’ve agreed to a date with you so don’t try to be anyone else. The more natural you are, the more comfortable you and your date will feel.

Wear Your Lucky Underwear

Got a lucky pair? Whether it’s your fail-safe boxers or a winning bra and brief combination, then now is the time to wear them. If it gives you a confidence boost then why not?


Dating nerves can make some people talk and talk and just talk some more. As much as it’s good to be chatty, you also want to make sure that you actually listen to your date. A little listening can go a long way!

Be Positive

Nobody likes a negative Nelly! There’s no quicker way to turn someone off than turning up with a bad attitude. If you’ve had a bad day, then leave that baggage at the door. Positive vibes only!

The Dont's

Talk About Your Ex

Just don’t do it. This will never end well! Your date does not want to hear about all the fun/romantic/woeful times you and you ex had together. You’ll either come across as bitter and twisted or just not over it.

Look For Perfection

It’s time to tear up that checklist! Don’t get us wrong, we’re not saying that you should settle, but just because they’re not ‘your type on paper’ doesn’t mean you won't have chemistry. Stay open-minded and remember that nobody is perfect!

Drink Too Much

Yes drinking can be a quick-fix for those pre-date nerves, but while one or two might be fine, you should really try not to overindulge. A little tipsy? Fine. Falling-on-the-floor drunk? No. You may think you’re being charming, but chances are you’re probably not.

Use Your Phone

Put. That. Phone. Away. Seriously, just don’t touch it. You’ll come across as disinterested, and frankly, a little bit rude. You can update your friends after the date – not on it – so please leave that phone alone.

Interview Your Date

Of course you should ask your date questions, but just remember that this is a date – not a job interview. You want to come across as relaxed and laid back – not professional or over prepared.


Jessica Flexton


With a love for lingerie, an obsession with the beach and an eye for style, Figleaves Editor, Jessica Flexton, talks everything from the latest trends to new collections and exclusive features.